Sunday, December 12, 2010

Two Months

It's hard to believe two months have passed already. Sofia is still missed just as much as the day they wheeled her out of our hospital room.

Tim shared with me last week that he often talks to Sofia when he's home alone. We still have the photo of her in the black frame (the same one displayed at her funeral) and he said he stands in front of it and talks to her. Last week he was talking to her about how good of a soccer player she'd be. I'm not sure what else he had to say. The interesting thing is he said Maggie (one of our yellow labs) sits next to him the entire time. One day after he finished speaking Maggie walked over to the frame then looked behind it. It was like she sensed something that couldn't be seen by human senses. He said a few days later he was talking in that room again by the frame and then walked away...but Maggie stayed there. She wouldn't get up (normally she's right by our sides at all times). They say that dogs/animals sense spirits among us, and we think Sofia is here. Tim said he figures it doesn't hurt to talk to her. Maybe she doesn't hear him but what if she does? He finds comfort in talking to her and that's all that matters.

Until today I wasn't aware there is a support group called The Compassionate Friends ( My Aunt Dianne let me know about it and that today at 7:00 PM was a worldwide candle lighting ceremony in memory of all the children gone too soon. I was so glad to find out just in time. I signed the guest book on their web site. So many parents like us missing their children tonight (every night). Had I known about this sooner we might have attended the ceremony being held at a local hotel. Next year we will attempt to do that. It was a happy feeling to think of all the candles being lit up across the world and how pretty that must look from above.

Here are some of the candles that were lit tonight for Sofia & other children (slide show; click on it if it stops and you want to see again):

Thanks to everyone who took the time to light a candle. It means a lot.


  1. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. It's crazy how the time passes when all you want it to do is stop. ((hugs)) Thinking of you.

  2. I totally believe Sofia is around you and Tim all the time. I also agree animals, especially dogs can sense our angels. It's neat. The pain of loosing our little ones is so great, but there is great comfort in knowing they are with us and we will see them again. My 4 year old is always asking if Jonas is here with us in the house. I say yes, we just can't see him, but we can talk to him whenever we want. I know they are close by and that makes me happy. All my love to you, especially during this time of the year. I knew it would be hard, but it seems a lot harder than I anticipated.