Saturday, November 6, 2010

Official Cause of Death

This seems to be the biggest question on everyone's minds, including ours. Unfortunately, an official cause of death has not been found and we will never know why her life was cut short.

If you really want to learn more about stillbirths I encourage you to read about it. I posted some links on the blog under "My Links" that talk about some causes and the fact that the cause of death in something like two-thirds of stillbirths are undetermined.

Like I mentioned previously, we chose not to put Sofia's body through an autopsy. Generally nothing is found in stillbirths and we didn't want her to be cut up.

In human error, the placenta didn't get sent on to pathology, so we'll never know if something might have been discovered there. That will be tremendously hard to deal with if/when we are pregnant in the future.

I've read that in some cases the cord gets hyper-coiled/twisted to much or there is a clot in the cord. It's possible this might have happened and it would be rare for it to happen again in future pregnancies. There were no knots in the cord in our case.

Anything is possible so we're trying to not dwell on it since there's nothing we can do to change it. Nothing will bring our baby back to us.


  1. I too crave "to KNOW". I am not sure why it is in our nature to know the reason for things. Me in particular... but I do know that somethings are better left a mystery... Sofia will always have a story and a spot in our lives even though we may not know the why she was not meant to stay.

  2. It's hard not knowing, even though it doesn't change anything.

    I know you wrote this a while ago. I hope you don't mind, I went back and started reading your blog from the beginning. Some blogs just stand out to me and make an impact and I feel like I can really relate to a lot of things. So sorry if all my comments are annoying!